More of a plea than a post!

i've had a fairly deep insight into how temporary seemingly permanent things can be.... like how household pets will perish... how secret places we used to hideout in as children will be destroyed to give way to something totally unidentifiable... how crushes fade...how friends betray... and how we grow!! everything changes...
i am yet to figure out if the transitions are for the better or worse of one experiencing them but i like to look at it this way.... the lessons of life are better learnt through experience as opposed to observation...
i have experienced losses of several types but nothing confuses me more than the emotioinal disconnection of a loved one without spoken reason or an obvious action. I am bewildred by the loss of friends who refuse to talk things out after years of knowing how much relevance i place on closure..i am not one to poke and prod until i am selfishly conetent so i give them space and time... but that does not imply that i am resting in peace... i often spend hours reminiscing the good times, wondering if by merely preserving memories , am i doing justice what the friendship once signified? if the equation two people share morphs into one of a lower standard, does that mean the two persons behave like strangers? i am confused and i beg all those who read this to leave a comment describing how you personally coped with loss of a loved one....

Space... to infinity and beyond!

The need to feel free to put on make up without your beau rolling his eyes is something i need to emphasize on... not that i put on make up or that my boyfriend rolls his eyes at anything i do...its a metaphor for that individual space one loses on entering into a realtionship. i'm still adjusting to the notion of being answerable to somebody who cares so much about me that it he presumes interference to be romantic.
I need my space ...so that i can indulge in the crazy, unexplainable things i did while i was single like watching T.V without being watched, like reading an sms without someone over my shoulder, like going for a drive for absolutely no reason.... it hurts to see the one you love get hurt because its hard for you to break a habit... but men really need to understand how important eating chocolate and bubble baths are to a lady... minus the men of course!
i've always been one to love "me" time... of course it can be a problem when "me" time overshadows "us" itme so drawing boundaries is a must. At the same time, its inacceptable for anybody to be denying you that unsupervised time unless your in a detention center or a reality show... so here's a little word of advice to the male folk.. let your women be... they're not going anywhere just because they're out of your sight.