More of a plea than a post!

i've had a fairly deep insight into how temporary seemingly permanent things can be.... like how household pets will perish... how secret places we used to hideout in as children will be destroyed to give way to something totally unidentifiable... how crushes fade...how friends betray... and how we grow!! everything changes...
i am yet to figure out if the transitions are for the better or worse of one experiencing them but i like to look at it this way.... the lessons of life are better learnt through experience as opposed to observation...
i have experienced losses of several types but nothing confuses me more than the emotioinal disconnection of a loved one without spoken reason or an obvious action. I am bewildred by the loss of friends who refuse to talk things out after years of knowing how much relevance i place on closure..i am not one to poke and prod until i am selfishly conetent so i give them space and time... but that does not imply that i am resting in peace... i often spend hours reminiscing the good times, wondering if by merely preserving memories , am i doing justice what the friendship once signified? if the equation two people share morphs into one of a lower standard, does that mean the two persons behave like strangers? i am confused and i beg all those who read this to leave a comment describing how you personally coped with loss of a loved one....